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How to Approach the Birth Control Chat with Your Teen


I know that discussing birth control with your teen might feel like navigating a minefield. But guess what? You're not alone, and I'm here to help. Watch the video above and the blog below and let's dive into this together, shall we?

Why and How to Approach Birth Control with your Teen

First off, why even talk about birth control? Well, it's as crucial as teaching them to brush their teeth or eat healthily. Reproductive health is a significant part of their overall well-being. And with so much information (and misinformation) available online, it's vital for them to hear from someone they trust -  you!

Birth control is a powerful tool that empowers individuals to make informed decisions about their reproductive health. It's not only about preventing pregnancy but also about taking control of your future. Timing parenthood can make all the difference in reaching our goals. 

When's the Right Time for the Birth Control Chat?

The answer is simple: before they begin to date. I recommend middle school and simpler conversations in late elementary.  It doesn't have to be a one-time, big "talk." Instead, a series of mini-chats. Whenever a relevant topic pops up, use it as a springboard and keep an eye out for teachable moments

Birth Control Basics

Birth control is a way to prevent unwanted pregnancies. It's a set of methods and devices that help individuals have control over when, if, and how they become parents. Birth control options are designed to reduce the chances of pregnancy by preventing sperm from meeting an egg or by making the environment in the uterus unfavorable for a fertilized egg to develop.

Types of Birth Control

There are various methods of birth control, each with its own advantages, disadvantages, and effectiveness. Here are some common types:

  1. Barrier Methods: These methods physically prevent sperm from reaching the egg. Condoms (both male and female) and diaphragms are examples of barrier methods.

  2. Hormonal Methods: These methods use hormones to prevent pregnancy. Birth control pills, patches, shots, and hormonal IUDs are some options. They work by inhibiting ovulation, thickening cervical mucus, or altering the uterine lining.

  3. Long-Acting Reversible Contraceptives (LARCs): These are highly effectiveand don't require daily or monthly maintenance. LARCs include intrauterine devices (IUDs) and contraceptive implants.

  4. Emergency Contraception: Often referred to as the "morning-after pill," emergency contraception can help prevent pregnancy after unprotected sex. Depending on the type it could be effective up to 3-5 days after unprotected sex. It should only be used in emergencies and not as a regular form of birth control as at its best it is less effective than other hormonal methods. Depending where you live this may be available without a prescription at your local pharmacy and anyone male or female can purchase. This can be excellent back up method to discuss with your teen boys in case of a condom break as well. 

  5. Permanent Methods: These methods are meant for individuals who are sure they do not want any more children. Examples include tubal ligation for women and vasectomy for men.

  6. Fertility Awareness-Based Methods: These methods involve tracking your menstrual cycle and avoiding intercourse during fertile days. These methods are not recommended for teens. 

The effectiveness of each birth control method varies. Some methods are more reliable than others, and the choice depends on lifestyle, preferences, and health considerations. It's important to use a chosen method consistently and correctly to maximize its effectiveness.


Safety and Side Effects

Most birth control methods are safe and have minimal side effects, but it's crucial to discuss your options with your doctor. Doctors can help you choose a method that aligns with your health, lifestyle, and future family planning goals.

Other Reasons for Birth Control

Did you know that birth control isn't just about preventing pregnancies? For many teen girls, it can help with issues like irregular or painful periods, hormonal acne, and even conditions like PCOS. Many also allow girls to have fewer periods each year. It's amazing what modern medicine can do!

The Importance of Condoms

Condoms deserve special mention because they not only help prevent pregnancy but also protect against sexually transmitted infections (STIs). However, when I teach, I often stress the importance of using two compatible methods together and tell students to think of condoms as what you use to prevent STIs and birth control as something additional. 

Communication Is Key

It's vital to communicate openly with your partner(s) about birth control. Remember that it's a shared responsibility, and discussing your choices, concerns, and boundaries is crucial for a healthy relationship. Couples should visit the doctor together and get tested before they begin a sexual relationship. 

And What About Teen Boys?

Ah, our young men! While there isn't a hormonal birth control option for them yet, it's essential to stress the importance of using condoms and being picky about who they have sex with. Not only do condoms prevent pregnancies, but they also protect against STIs. I would also discuss what to do if a condom breaks and emergency contraception.  Sex is a shared responsibility after all, and their futures are just as much at risk. 

Depending where you live or go to college, access to birth control and reproductive services can vary. In California, there is no age restriction to access and minors can consent for care.  Emergency contraception and some bc pills are available over the counter at local pharmacies as well. Many colleges have health centers on campus that offer some reproductive health services. 

Consider telling your teen that if and when they are ready for sex that you hope that they come to you first, so that you can help them get what they may need. However, if they make a different choice and don't tell you, that their health and safety is always your number 1 priority. That you want them to prevent an unwanted pregnancy and disease, and visit a doctor with you, or their partner first. 

Remember, you're doing an incredible job. By opening up this conversation, you're ensuring your teen's health and well-being. And always know that The Talk Institute is here to support you every step of the way.

If you are looking for additional resources be sure to check out our Middle School E-course for a deep dive into birth control methods and much, much, more. We also have great book reviews and recommend checking out organizations like Amaze.org for age-appropriate sex education videos for your teen to watch.

Talk soon, Talk often.... 


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