5 Things Parents Do Wrong When Talking THE Talk
Watch this FREE video series on how to avoid the top 5 tragic mistakes parents can make when talking to their kids about sex and growing up!
1. Wait for Kids to Ask or School to teach it
Many times parents believe that conversations about the birds and the bees aren't necessary until a child has questions or has signs of physical development. The fact is however, that some kids simply will never ask these types of questions. Your child is getting a sex education daily from the media, television, internet, and their peers. You simply cannot be the only one not talking to them.
2. Lie
Sometimes parents or adults believe children are too young to hear the real truth about sex, so they choose to lie or withhold information to protect them. Try this instead, turn it into a teachable moment. If children find out you lied, it ruins your credibility and then they will discount anything you have to say about that topic.
3. Forget their Poker Face
You know how you can look at your kid and know when something is wrong? Well your kids can read you too. They will know if a topic freaks you out, embarrasses you, or makes you angry. It's important to be open when talking about sex. That means trying not to overreact when you are shocked or concerned. Take a deep breath and try to think about how best to react.
4. Use Fear, Shame & Absolutes
Research has shown that fear-based approaches are not always the best tactic. Fear can seem effective but typically only for the short term. Shame is another tactic to avoid. Young people need to know what the benefits of a healthy, consensual, and autonomous sex life look like, as well as possible consequences to sexual activity.
5. Fail to Take Advantage of or Create Teachable Moments
There are conversations that you are going to have to initiate with your kids. If you pay attention you'll notice teachable moments are around you all the time.
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